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Photo
Spot
The Photo spot is where a current picture of the child
is placed. This should be a large, smiley-faced picture
or some action picture the child is proud of. This gives
the child ownership of the chart and fosters personal
pride.
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Hear
to Heart Game
The Heart
to Heart hook is where the Heart to Heart
game card of the day is placed. There are 23
different games (plus 2 Parent choice cards) that are
suggested in these instructions but you can invent as
many more as you desire for your own family. Each game
emphasizes a positive behavior and value parents may
want to strengthen in the home. The card the parent
displays puts each child on notice about which behavior
is being especially rewarded that day. It is probably
best if you have all the children play the same game
on any given day but some families have played a different
game for each child. The games are designed to build
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Explanation of 23 different Heart
to Heart Games |
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How to choose Heart to Heart
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The
Medal of Honor
The Medal of Honor hook is where the Medal of Honor card
is hung after the child earns it. To earn this high honor
the child works through the trust issues of honesty, accountability,
responsibility and good judgment. One side of the card
indicates, "I am working on becoming trustworthy".
This side of the card is shown when the child is working
on becoming trustworthy. When a child has demonstrated
his ability and willingness to be trustworthy in an age
appropriate manner, the card is turned over and the Medal
of Honor side is shown declaring "I am Trustworthy". Being
trusted is a high honor, a very great achievement and
an ongoing commitment is required to maintain trustworthy
status. When a person is trustworthy many privileges and
opportunities are available that are not available to
those who are not trustworthy. This honor is earned and
maintained through constant adherence to the highest standards
of integrity and effort. Parents must explain what honesty,
accountability, responsibility and good judgment are,
but more importantly they must live that standard and
set a worthy example for their children to follow. If
the child lies or in some other way fails to be trustworthy
on some significant point, the card is reversed again
and the trustworthy status must be re-earned. Do not make
this game so tough that a child never has a chance, but
not too easy either. The average child will earn and lose
this Medal of Honor many times before they really understand
and become truly trustworthy. Reward efforts; but don't
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Kudo
King Game
The Kudo King
card hook is where the children accumulate all their hard-earned
Kudo King cards for superior performances, attitudes and
behaviors during the day. If they have done all their
work and have been really good all day they earn this
award. The kids do not compete with each other for this
award. Everyone, no one, or just one or two children can
earn this award; it all depends on how each individual
person acts during the day. Reward cooperation, not competition.
Kudo King cards are accumulated and saved for very special
privileges that are listed on the Kudo King Rewards sheet.
When a child has earned the Kudo King award for the day
he/she gets a Kudo King card to save for big future rewards,
plus he/she also gets to play the Kudo King game. Cards
for older children will name opportunities that will be
of special interests to them such as curfew extensions,
car privileges, etc. The child picks a card from a face
down fanned out set of cards held by a parent. There are
typically 14
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Explanation of the 14 kudo King
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Kudo
Kash
Kudo Kash - Kids must learn how to earn, save, budget
and spend money. Therefore, over $1,000.00 in Kudo Kash
is available in each Kudos For Kids program. Actually
earning and handling money is essential in preparing a
child for adult life. It has been said that the biggest
single cause for divorce is the mismanagement of money.
In America we have not been doing a very commendable job
as parents preparing our children to manage their financial
affairs as adults. As children mature you may need more
money as they begin to save for car insurance, college,
etc. |
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My
Stuff
The My Stuff hook holds job cards for all the things the
child is personally responsible for on a daily basis.
These 29 cards have a special red border so they can be
used by children who don't read yet. They are normally
attached by a ring to a lanyard or neck strap, which hangs
around the child's neck. As the job on each card is completed,
the card is flipped to the back of the stack. When all
the jobs are done (including Daily and Weekly Jobs), the
cards are brought to a parent to check. A quality check
might be necessary at first (until the child is well trained)
to see if the jobs are indeed done and up to standard.
The job cards hanging around a child's neck are a great
reminder to stay on task. A Speedy Card is awarded for
finishing on time and is one of the requirements (along
with superior efforts and behavior) that qualify the child
to earn Kudo King status and to play the Kudo King game
at the end of the day. |
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Daily
Jobs
The hook for Daily Jobs is for jobs assigned to that child
that will vary from day to day but that must be completed
that day. There are about 60 job cards for just about
any job you can think of. There are also two Parent Choice
cards to add any job we might have missed...such as, Feed
the Alligators or Wash the Boat. These jobs are selected
by the parents according to what needs to be done around
the house but that usually do not need to be done every
day such as mop the kitchen floor or clean the bathroom.
Completing the Daily Job is a requirement for being Kudo
King of the Day. Each day, the child should refer to the
Daily Jobs hook to see which job/s the parent has selected
to do that day. |
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Weekly
Jobs
The hook for Weekly Jobs is for jobs assigned to that
child that will last for one week. Some of these jobs
must be completed each day for the home to run smoothly,
such as doing the dishes or preparing meals. Other jobs
such as cutting the lawn and doing laundry are examples
of a weekly job that might need to be done only once during
the week. These jobs will probably be rotated between
the children each week. The child should check the Daily
and Weekly Job area of the chart each day to see what
is required. These daily and weekly jobs are often given
to the lowest bidder. Kids need money for all their activities,
etc., so mom might bid out the dishes," Who'll do
evening dishes for $3.00 a night?" Three kids raise
their hands. "OK! 2.50?" Two kids raise their
hands. $2.00" One kid raises his hand. "Fine,
Tommy will do the evening dishes every night for one week
for $2.00 a night. Now we will bid out vacuuming the front
room each day. We will start with $2.00!" |
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Target
Behavior
The Target Behavior hook is used to focus on certain desirable
or undesirable behaviors the parent and child wish to
work on. First, the parent and child mutually define the
behavior they want to develop or eliminate. For instance
a child might decide as a target behavior to stop biting
her fingernails: "After I have stopped biting my nails
for seven consecutive days I can have three friends over
for a pizza and ice cream sundae party." A predetermined
reward is given when the goal is reached. During the process,
when a parent recognizes real effort on the part of the
child, Kudos Kash or some other rewards might be given
as immediate reinforces so that the child does not become
discouraged. |
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Mail
Box
The Heart to Heart Mail Box is the personal mail center
for the child. Family members can place special notes
they have written expressing love and appreciation for
each other in this box. It is not a complaint box but
it is meant to be a system that is constantly uplifting
and encouraging to the child. These communications from
other family members should always express positive opinions
and gratitude for that person being a member of the family.
The mailbox can also used for phone messages and regular
mail that arrives at the home, as well as for special
awards such as a stick of gum attached to a thank you
note for some thoughtful act. |
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